I was once asked by a friend “is there a strategy for getting a girl friend?” and “yes” i responded “there is a strategy for everything”. And now i am putting my answer to him on the web for all boys and girls (the same strategy work for girls too, just switch the sexes below). Continue reading
A date is a meeting of two person where at least one have a “romantic interest” in the other.
“Romantic interest” can either mean one have a romantic feeling towards another, the feeling can either be describe as love, crush, or simply wanting to find our if there is possibility for romantic relationship.
The obvious way to find out if one of them have romantic feeling towards another is simply to ask either one of them.
However, people don’t like to admit to the romantic nature, possibly due to shyness, secrecy or they need to lie to a boy/girl friend.
I think a good way to test if the meeting is a date, is to ask both party (separately) that if its ok for a 3rd person to join their meeting, if they answer “NO” without giving an “reasonable reason” then its safe to say its a date.
The 3rd person is a good test, because if the meeting is date, they usually dont want a 3rd person to join.
by a “reasonable reason” i mean for example a meeting to discuss about business, or private family matter then its obviously reasonable to say “no” to a 3rd person.
Take the below scenario for example
Pink is going out with Blue to watch a movie,
Red ask Pink if its not a date can Red come too?
Pink reject Red’s request saying “no its not a date, but you still cannot come because you dont know Blue”
in this scenario, i would say that Red not knowing Blue is not a “reasonable reason” to reject Red.
Pink rejected Red because Pink either have romantic feeling towards Blue, or Pink thinks Blue have romantic feeling towards Pink.
What do you think? is it likely that the meeting between Pink and Blue is a date?
Two nights ago, at a cafe i was with 2 girls who forcefully argue that it is highly improbable to be in a relationship with an ideal lover.
According to the Jung Typology, I am an ENTP type person, and Keirsey’s typology says we only constitutes at most 2% of the entire population.
Lets say, if my ideal person is someone who has the same typology as myself, that would be 2%
but simply being an ENTP is not enough, there are other criteria that needs to be met in order for that ENTP to be my ideal lover. These criteria are:
Age, I can only accept anyone who is 5 year older or younger, if only 10% of the population fits that profile, than, only 10% of the total 2% of the entire population would fit my desired profile.
making it 0.2%
lets say half of that 0.2% are boys, too bad i only like girls, = 0.1% left
lets say half of that 0.1% is in an significant romantic relationship, = 0.05%
lets say i am not attracted to half of that 0.05%, = 0.025%
lets say a quater of that 0.025% dont find me attractive making it, = 0.01875
lets say, i need someone who is intelligent and speaks at least 2 languages, and lets assumes only 1 in 5 ENTPs meets that requirement, that would bring the figure down to, 0.00375%
Which means there is one person in every 26667 people that would fit my ideal lover profile and be willing to date me. Therefor on this island with the population of 230 million, there are only 863 people who fits that profile, Hence, i am single.
Take the test and find out if you are an ENTP person.