A date is a meeting of two person where at least one have a “romantic interest” in the other.
“Romantic interest” can either mean one have a romantic feeling towards another, the feeling can either be describe as love, crush, or simply wanting to find our if there is possibility for romantic relationship.
The obvious way to find out if one of them have romantic feeling towards another is simply to ask either one of them.
However, people don’t like to admit to the romantic nature, possibly due to shyness, secrecy or they need to lie to a boy/girl friend.
I think a good way to test if the meeting is a date, is to ask both party (separately) that if its ok for a 3rd person to join their meeting, if they answer “NO” without giving an “reasonable reason” then its safe to say its a date.
The 3rd person is a good test, because if the meeting is date, they usually dont want a 3rd person to join.
by a “reasonable reason” i mean for example a meeting to discuss about business, or private family matter then its obviously reasonable to say “no” to a 3rd person.
Take the below scenario for example
Pink is going out with Blue to watch a movie,
Red ask Pink if its not a date can Red come too?
Pink reject Red’s request saying “no its not a date, but you still cannot come because you dont know Blue”
in this scenario, i would say that Red not knowing Blue is not a “reasonable reason” to reject Red.
Pink rejected Red because Pink either have romantic feeling towards Blue, or Pink thinks Blue have romantic feeling towards Pink.
What do you think? is it likely that the meeting between Pink and Blue is a date?